What can I do to make sure I am becoming the best version of myself?

What can I do to make sure I am becoming the best version of myself? by Ken Mazaika

Answer by Ken Mazaika:

I identified 21 actions that could help you become the best version of yourself.

#19 is the most actionable of them all.

1. Just show up. Say you want to run a marathon, but have no prior experience. The first step is lacing up you shoes and hitting the pavement. Even if you only make it half a mile on your first training run, you’ll be about 2% closer to your ultimate goal than if you didn’t put in any work at all.

2. Start from the beginning. You don’t just happen to stumble upon the best version of yourself. You need to start from the beginning and take a high number of small steps in order to become what you envision.

3. Recognize that the best version of yourself should be your vision, not anybody else’s. Don’t waste energy trying to live up to what somebody else wants you to be.

4. Stop looking for a secret trick. There is no miraculous shortcut to the better version of yourself.

5. Use Twitter to network. It’s never been easier to get in touch with influential and powerful people. Earlier in my career, I reached out a high-level executive of a company I was interested in. He was hosting an AMA session on Twitter. I asked him for advice about how to get hired for his company, and not only did he reply with some helpful tips, he also connected me with specific people at the company about an open position.

6. Don’t sweat the details. Just make sure that you’re moving in the right general direction. You probably don’t have the knowledge you need today to know the shortest path to your happiness 5 years from today. But you probably have some idea about how to move in the right direction. Take those steps.

7. Recognize the opportunity at hand. The Internet has fundamentally changed everything. Previously, knowledge was locked away in the minds of industry experts and in the pages of books that you needed to buy or check out from a library. But now, it’s easier than ever to learn new skills. This is essential to becoming the best version of yourself.

8. Write on Medium. Translating your thoughts into written narratives pushes you to think about the ideas in your head at a much deeper level.

9. Don’t count the hours. They don’t matter. Think about the last time you ran on a treadmill. If you looked down at the timer every few seconds, you probably didn’t enjoy your run. In turn, this made it far more difficult to run far.

But what if you took the opposite approach? You plugged in your headphones, lost yourself in the music, and took it one stride at a time….while resisting any temptation to look at the timer at all. If you did this, you probably discovered that you enjoyed the run and made it pretty far. Counting hours just slows you down from reaching your goal.

10. Accept help from other people. Don’t let your pride get in the way. Most successful people needed help along the way, too.

11. Launch a personal website. Maintaining an online presence of yourself pushes you to become the best possible version of you.

12. Write answers on Quora. Quora is an amazing place to help and inspire people at scale.

13. Ignore the social media scoreboard. People depict an extremely exaggerated version of life on Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, and other social platforms. We only share the good things, not the bad. So when you compare yourself to what you see on social media, you’re just hurting yourself.

14. Celebrate the small wins. Appreciating what you’re doing in the present gives you the motivation to keep making strides towards your ultimate goal.

15. Stop pretending to know things you don’t know. You’ll never learn anything if you pretend to already know everything.

16. Embrace failure. You can’t become the best version of yourself by playing it safe. Heck, getting fired could even be the best thing that ever happened to you, just look at Noah Kagan (employee 30 at Facebook).

17. Call your family. This is just the decent thing to do. But you can also learn lessons from your family that aren’t available through any Google search and aren’t accessible to pretty much anyone else in the world.

18. Exercise in the morning. Once I started doing this in the morning, I became far more focused and relaxed throughout the day. Science backs that up, too.

19. Create a side project. Doing something productive outside of work that makes you happy helps you become a better version of yourself. So, whatever it is…an app, film, album, whatever….start doing it on your nights and weekends. And who knows? It might just turn into a full-time job that you love.

20. Help other people become the best version of themselves. Pay it forward. Doing so keep you motivated on your own path, and you’ll find that the lasting connections you build from helping others will greatly benefit you moving forward.

21. Launch your MVP early. If you’re not satisfied with the current version of yourself, then the quickest way to solve the problem is to begin working towards the better version today. There is no “right time” to get started.

It can be tempting to think about the best version of yourself as some intangible point in the future. You know, the one where you are:

  • More successful
  • Doing what you love
  • Existing as an overall happier person

You see your current self as the regular season, and you’re just waiting for the playoffs to start before giving it your all.

But if all you do is wait for the best version of yourself to happen, you’re forever going to be stuck with the current version.

So, how do you launch the best version of yourself? Start making progress today.

Sometimes, you need to make a big change in order to unleash the best version of yourself. If one thought recently entered your mind, then it’s time to do it.

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What can I do to make sure I am becoming the best version of myself?

What are the five most important things for a man to learn in life?

What are the five most important things for a man to learn in life? by James Altucher

Answer by James Altucher:

I'm 48. Here's what a man should know.

A) QUIT YOUR JOB

You can't get rich at a job. You have to get rich by either starting a business or having multiple streams of income.

Don't quit your job tomorrow. Be a man. Be responsible. Just do it over time but every day move towards this goal.

Why do you need to get rich? Is this particular to a man?

Not really. Woman should do this also. But historically, men in our society have been the bread earners and you will feel better about yourself if you can do it.

So do it.

B) DON’T LET SOMEONE ELSE VALIDATE YOU

If you want to make a TV show, make a video. If you want to write a book, write it and self-publish.

If you want to be an investment banker, find one company that wants to get sold and another company that wants to buy it and put yourself in the middle. You don't need to be "chosen" by Goldman Sachs.

If you want an education, find a way to learn online. You don't need to get a degree in X to be X (unless legally).

C) HEALTH.

Men die earlier than women.

There's really only three keys to better health. I'll add a fourth.

Sleep well. Eat well. Low stress. And to help all of the above go faster, exercise.

Fill in the blanks how you want to get the above done. It doesn't matter. As long as you are aware of how important the above four towards living to be 100 with high quality of life then you will do it.

D) DON’T OUTSOURCE YOUR SELF ESTEEM

Sometimes I've met a woman and I've basically given her all of my self-esteem to take care of.

Then she gets tired of me, bored of me, and dumps me, and now she's taken my self-esteem away until i find it again.

It's hard enough for any one person to manage their own self-esteem, let alone yours.

Take care of your own self-esteem.

E) CREATIVITY

When you are creative, you become competent. Every day try to do one creative thing a day that makes you feel good.

This is one way to make yourself your priority and never anyone else.

Does this seem selfish? It totally is.

But 1% a day improvement in creativity compounds you into a giant among people.

You will feel good, you will have better relationships with people, you will be able to do what you want.


Oh, there’s one more and it’s basically obvious. Always be honest. See? Obvious.

Do I do these things? I can tell you that when I haven't my life has fallen apart. And when I have, I can do whatever I want.

What are the five most important things for a man to learn in life?

“Compared With” VS “Compared To”

To compare to is to point out or imply resemblances between objects regarded as essentially of a different order;

To compare with is mainly to point out differences between objects regarded as essentially of the same order.

Thus, life has been compared to a pilgrimage, to a drama, to a battle; Congress may be compared with the British Parliament. Paris has been compared to ancient Athens; it may be compared with modern London.

How do I get better at networking?

Answer by Zack Freedman:

The Rules of Networking:

  1. Networking is bullshit. You don’t “network”, you meet people. Get out of the results-oriented mindset and enjoy the conversations. Be a goddamn human about it. Put down your phone, because…
  2. Comfort zones are bullshit. The only network worth having is one that has a diverse group. Wide and shallow is the name of the game. With a wide network, you have more interesting conversations, more options for solving problems, and more ears on the ground to spot trends. Grow some balls, leave your silo, and make friends with people who are utterly unlike you. Twitter and Facebook shield you, which is why…
  3. Social media is bullshit. Talk to people in the real world. A lot. Expand your options using meetups, clubs, mixers, and getting friends to drag you along to their social stuff. Try and talk to everyone at the event. Ignore your business cards, because…
  4. Business cards are bullshit. There’s exactly one reason to use a card – you take their card because you want to follow up on something they said. They like old Benzes and you have a friend who collects them? Ask for their card, write “Connect w Jeff re Benzes” on the front, pocket the card, and follow up with it. Don’t give out your card unless asked, because…
  5. “Let’s talk later” is bullshit. They’ll never follow up with you. The ball is firmly in your court. If the conversation went well, call them back within two days, link them with what you wrote down, and check in every two weeks or so. Two weeks?! Yes, because…
  6. You never stop selling. You never stop shipping. Your life is vibrant, fascinating, and fast-moving. Every week, you have new people to connect and new developments to tell others about. And you do so.Your regular contact builds friends. Your excitement makes them want to listen. Your activity spreads the word that you get things done.

    Conversations aren’t “How are you doing? Fine, how are you?” They’re real, visceral, and worthwhile. Most importantly, you’re actually helping people, and that’s why you start networking in the first place.

How do I get better at networking?

How do I become more intelligent and have better conversations?

Answer by Matthew Manning:

Here is how:

  1. Do all of the obvious things that people are going to suggest and that you could probably figure out yourself.  Chief among these is, of course, reading more.  Read all the time, even when you are waiting in line at the DMV, even when you are in the bathroom.
  2. Don't forget reference books. When I was a kid I would pore over encyclopedias.  These days you can do much better with Wikipedia.  Read the articles you like, look at the pictures, try to understand the tables.  Go on Wikipedia adventures, clicking from one thing to the next, and try to figure out how you started at Woodwinds and ended up at Beastie Boys.
  3. Try to unlock fine art.  Try really hard to read poems and figure out what they mean or what the author was talking about.  Pick out one picture in a museum and stare at it for an hour.  This will feel like an exercise in futility at first, but it will get easier over time and you will be amazed at how enlightening it can be.
  4. Spend more time in coffee shops (or any other social, creative space).  Listen to the conversations around you.  Even if you think people are morons for what they are talking about, just listen to them.  Try to determine if you agree or disagree and why.  If you feel compelled, butt into a conversation and see what happens.
  5. Watch more documentaries.  Documentaries zero in on a small slice of life and pull it apart for nearly two hours.  The specific illuminates the whole – this the key to increasing intellect.  Try to see the connections to how small microcosms represent larger working systems.  This is how you better acquaint yourself with metaphor.  Metaphor is the great tool of the human mind, and it's what separates us from the beasts.
  6. Spend less time trying to absorb the "noise" and pay attention to the specific "signals" that interest you.  There is a deluge of bullshit information that is thrown at your everyday, and I don't hesitate to say ignore most of it.  Pop culture deadens the senses and fills up important storage space in your finite brain.  If you must take it in, do so with a critical and suspicious eye.  For more on this watch Carpenter's "They Live."
  7. Find the others.  Find other smart people and make friends with them.  Don't look to argue with them.  Try to understand them, debate respectfully, and learn from them.  For more on this: a quote by Timothy Leary

Now the most important question:  can you do it?

How do I become more intelligent and have better conversations?

Are we wasting our life by trying to learn too much?

Answer by Stan Hayward:

Yes you are
What is more, you are wasting your time reading this post
and I am wasting time writing it

You are wasting time laying the table to eat. You could eat it just as well by using a bowl like your dog does

You are wasting time dressing up to go to work, and then changing your dress to go somewhere else

You are wasting time earning money to buy things you do not need
You are wasting time arguing with people who will take no notice of you
You are wasting time cataloguing your possesions when you will never use that catalogue
You are wasting time installing programs on your computer that you will rarely use
You are wasting time window shopping
You are wasting time watching TV that is not entertaining or informative
You are wasting time thinking about things you will never get around to doing

You wasted time learning a language you rarely speak, an instrument you rarely play, some party tricks you rarely practice, and cooking something you rarely eat
In general, your whole life is a waste of time

The reason you exist is because your parents concieved you when they had nothing better to do
And it is likely that you have, or will, do the same

You will waste much time looking after your children and buying them things they will break, ignore, or clutter up the place
You will waste much time running around clearing up after them

You will waste much time looking after your car which will stand empty for most of its life

And to top it all, you wasted time writing the question because even if someone give a perfect answer to the question, the answer has no beneficial application whatsoever

The good news is that
soon, just about everyone in the world will be unemployed because automation will replace us all
We will have nothing at all to do other than waste time all day

But instead of wasting it on the the above things that we currently do because we are socially pressured into doing them
we will waste time in creative ways

We will all live like the idle rich who do not lift a finger
We will live like artists who vaguely believe that their artistic insights will change the world
The world will be changed, but rather like you change you clothes, so it won't matter much

There, I've said it, and wasted exactly eleven and a half minutes of my life that has disappeared to wherever time goes when it is used up

I hope you are happy now

Are we wasting our life by trying to learn too much?

How I can be happy?

Answer by Dushka Zapata:

Here is what has worked for me.
  • Enjoying the present moment. Not dwelling on something that happened in the past; not obsessing about the future.
  • Make decisions that come from a place of love instead of from a place of fear.
  • Accepting what is. A lot of unhappiness comes from expectations and resisting what is happening.
  • Don't want what you don't already have. Envy (wanting for yourself what someone else has) and jealousy (the fear someone will take what is yours) make me unhappy very quickly.
  • Come across an obstacle and feel challenged instead of frustrated. This is all about attitude.
  • Think of others. Thinking only of yourself means you never get out of your own head.
  • Control nothing: I catch myself forcing, pushing, pulling, manipulating, plotting and set it aside.
  • Believe things happen in your best interest.
  • Feel grateful.
  • Feel that you have enough.  
  • When met with the unknown, feel a sense of adventure rather than uncertainty.
  • See beauty everywhere.
None of these are decisions you make but rather things you practice. Practice makes these things both easier and more frequent.

How I can be happy?